Decisions to Make
Firstly, it is important to know that you may be faced with some difficult decisions and we will help as best we can. When faced with these decisions it is always useful to ask yourself, what is relevant and what is significant.
There is no need for you to rush into decisions. You should first be sure to contact family and friends to advise them of the death. Then contact the funeral director of your choice. You will likely need to decide what is more appropriate a cremation or a burial? You should feel comfortable about the significance of the ceremony and where it should be held, (A church, a home, a shed, a farm, a beach). You do have choices.
You’ll need to consider which people you wish to invite to speak and who you wish to preside? Would you like a minister or celebrant? It will also be important to decide on the time frame between the death and funeral?
How To Plan A Funeral
The ceremony is unique to every person. What may have happened at other ceremonies may not be appropriate for you and your family. Consider carefully the need and purpose of the funeral ceremony. It must first and foremost sustain a relevance and significance to the family and the individual. All that takes place within the ceremony and the funeral should bear a relationship to feelings and thoughts.
Many people do not know or understand what has to be done, but the Bethany family are here to listen and support, helping you with solutions and friendly options, allowing you to decide what’s best for you and your family. It is not a decision, which requires you to rush, you can take your time.
A Step by Step Guide
Be certain you make an appointment with the Funeral Director to ensure they are available when you need to see them.
Be open to choices and allow us to offer options, before you decide the appropriate course. Remember it is what is relevant and significant to you and your loved ones that matters.
Information required by the Registry of Birth Deaths and Marriages can be found on birth, marriage and previous family members’ death certificates. If you have difficulties our Bethany family members can help.
Composing a Eulogy
Many people find it difficult to express their views publicly and often the first real experience comes when one must pen the words for an eulogy. Our advice is to look into your heart, do not be afraid to discuss openly how you feel, there is no better moment than this to express your heartfelt emotions.
Of course, you will need to capture the essence of the person and it can be useful to apply some chronology. Don’t be afraid to celebrate the whole person, the good and the challenging, (often the challenging can be useful for the lighter moments). Never try to write too much. More is not necessarily better. Make your limit of 7 to 10 minutes – certainly no longer. By limiting yourself you’ll weed those things of less consequence.
Don’t try to present without notes, the important points can be forgotten and it’s so easy to do when your confronted by an expectant audience.